October12014

scumplanet:

JUST A REMINDER THAT PLATONIC LOVE IS REALLY IMPORTANT AND I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE FRIENDS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH PLATONICALLY CAUSE THOSE FRIENDSHIPS ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND HONEST OK THANK YOU

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“I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?””

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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Color my inbox with the chaos of trouble

Deep Red - I’m in love with you.
Red
 - I love you.
Pink
 - I think you’re cute.
Blue
 - You’re amazing.
Rose - You’re pretty
Purple
 - You’re hot.
Plum - I would fuck you.
Violet - I would date you.
Aqua - I could stay on your blog for hours.
Lavender
 - You are my tumblr crush.
Orange - I want to get to know you.
Tangerine
 - We have a lot in common.
Amber
 - I wish you would notice me.
Cream - I don’t talk to you but I really love your blog.

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Anonymous said: unfollowed simply because, while everyone is entitled to their opinions, I can't believe that as a woman with a child growing inside of you, you support other women ending the life of an innocent baby just like yours. loved your blog but seeing that on my feed breaks my heart, and I can't wrap my head around how a woman expecting a child justifies other women killing babies just like the one inside of you

girlslovesextoo:

You are entitled to your opinion and understand your decision. Although I am no longer pregnant, son turned 2 months old today actually, I have always been pro-choice and always will be because just because what I may think is right for my body is not what is necessarily right for someone else’s and that is their decision to make. I wish that women, of all ages, were educated in pregnancy prevention as well as alternatives to abortion but if they decide that abortion is what is right for them, in their situation, then that is their decision. Every woman, every pregnancy, and every situation is different so it is unfair to imply that all women need to be lumped into a single category regarding this issue. This is my opinion and if this means more followers choose to unfollow then that is their right to leave, but nothing will change my mind on the matter. 

September302014

Katniss Everdeen + Identities

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legalmexican:

Dentist: *Has multiple things in your mouth*

"So how’s school?"

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afloydianslip:

afriet:

John F. Kennedy on civil rights

And people wonder why he was shot. Over 50 years later and he’s still ahead of his time.

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